Monday, April 25, 2011

And so it begins...


Reflections on what I see around me and inside me after Sai Baba shed his earthly form.
The Great Teacher

And so it begins...
The melee, the madness, the mortal mud-slinging.
Like hyenas, ripping the remains of a carcass, they descend.
Their wild calls echoing, their saliva dripping at the sight of scandal.
Anything, to abuse. Anything, to tear down.
Driven by the cold iciness of emptiness within, they howl.

And so it begins...
The mantle has been passed.
What was once contained, has now escaped Its shackles
And we are all bathed in droplets of Love.

And so it begins...
The hyenas snap and lunge, their tongues eager for the taste of victory.
I must stand calm, washed in the light of Love.
Knowing that it is my judgement alone that marks them as hyenas and I as something ‘greater.’
In truth, we are one, and have always been one.

And so it begins...
A wordless prayer ... Goddess, love through me.
Let me look upon those open jaws with the gaze of Love
Let me listen to those howls and hear them with Love
Let me remember that all is a manifestation of Love
Let me not try to change what is into what ‘I’ want it to be...
Let me only Love, Goddess, with your Unconditional Love.

And so it begins...
The transformation the Great Teacher wrought..
From emptiness to pure love.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Adventure - Random (and slightly disconnected) musings of a 19 year old


(I wrote this in February 1999, in Fairfield, Iowa.)

It is true that adventure calls. It is as though one can swim through life relatively easily with no extraordinary occurrences – indeed there are people who do. But adventure calls – sometimes softly and sometimes so loud that it seems as though the very insides of the earth can hear here terrifying roar.

Has adventure ever called me? Indeed it has – it has always seemed that the adventurous path is the one made for me. It seems not a new adventure but an exciting story being lived again – all the signposts, the guides are familiar characters, but each one is now played by a different soul. The setting, the story, the unfolding is the same. I am the same, though physically different – and the cast is new.

What is adventure but the constant search for balance? In Kali Yuga, balance has to be maintained so carefully at each point – for imbalance is so easily achieved. In ages past, the restoration of balance was the great adventure – a call to rebirth. Today, each moment is an adventure, each moment a crossroad – will I , the hero, take the path to greater balance for myself and the world? Or the path to imbalance? That is my test.

No longer the glory of the world-conquering, earth-saving hero – each of us is a hero today. Each life path an adventure. When we begin to feel and see life as an adventure, it comes alive and breathes breath into us and opens up its treasures of guides and angels and tests and tribulations from other worlds. It is this call of adventure that we must yield to. Yes – adventure calls – she speaks all the time – for she and life are one. And yet we are deaf to her speech, blind to her beauty and insensitive to her touch.

When she comes alive and we follow her light, we truly fulfil our individual mission on earth.

That is when we truly start living life.

(12 years of tests, tribulation, treasures and angels, and the adventure continues...)

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Ashtami and the Unmarried Woman



Oil-soaked pooris (fried Indian bread) appeared at the breakfast table this morning. I notice them piled on various paper plates, each also holding chickpeas and halwa (Indian dessert) and a red thread and a twenty rupee note. Now I remembered – it’s Ashtami – the eighth day of the Nine Days of the Goddess.

The tradition, which is very sweet and beautiful, requires each family to cook a specific meal (poori, chickpeas and halwa) and distribute it along with clothing/jewellery/cash to at least eight or nine kanyaas in the neighbourhood on the eighth day of this Goddess Worshipping Festival.

The word ‘kanyaa’ has developed different meanings. There was a time when kanyaa meant a girl who had not yet begun menstruating. It then expanded in breadth becoming a term used for a girl who was unmarried, and (hence) a virgin. It is the latter meaning that has continued to be associated with the word today.

The idea was to revere the goddess energy manifest in girls – a truly unique celebration of the Feminine that only happens in India. The idea was to make the girls conscious of their feminine power, to help them identify themselves with the Goddess and thus access Her gifts within them. The idea was to teach them to know their power and their place in society – a pedestal which was the highest a man could give a woman – that of the Divine Goddess. It was an empowering ritual for the girl and a reminder to her father of the sacred nature of her existence.

Like all traditions, it’s dwindled into the drudgery of ritual, for most people. I mean, it seems quite pointless feeding and clothing and worshipping the goddess in your daughter in April and then murdering your daughter in May because she decides to marry a young man who doesn’t belong to your caste. (Yes, this does happen in Indian cities even today. The phenomenon is known as ‘honour killings.’)

It’s like making a trip to Vaishno Devi (a famous goddess pilgrimage spot) for ‘mata ke darshan’ (vision of the Mother Goddess) and then coming home a week later and beating your wife in a drunken stupor or forcing your daughter to quit her studies so she can marry. I don’t think that could really put you in high favour with the Great Goddess. Nope. Definitely not.

To me, the tradition is beautiful, especially if it accomplishes its original aim. And if I had a daughter I would remind her exactly what it meant before I gave her pooris and halwa or maybe just pasta would do. The food wouldn’t be the point of course. 

The reason I wrote this blogpost, however, was to voice a completely different idea: I am compelled to observe that in a society that is marriage-obsessed – the ritual can be a tad embarrassing.

In India, as a woman, your shelf life (value in the marriage market) dips considerably when you cross 25 years of age. If you’ve made it to 30 without being wedded, you are old news – literally – like yesterday’s newspaper that lines the bins. All the ‘good’ men are taken. Only the ‘divorcees’ (still mentioned in hushed whispers) are left and well, I mean, you really don’t want to settle for a ‘divorcee’ (hushed whisper) unless you are 38 and there’s ‘no other option.’ I am rolling my eyes here – seriously.

(I’m not even going to venture into the shocking lack of acceptance of divorced people in this society – it is truly appalling – martyrs who murder their souls in loveless marriages are given greater respect than individuals who choose to stand up for themselves and define their boundaries or awaken to find their trust betrayed by a partner and their honour tarnished in society – all in one fell swoop.)

But I digress.

What I meant to say was that in such a marriage-obsessed society, it is a bit of a rude shock to be woken up, at the age of 31 with poori and halwa from well-meaning neighbours on Ashtami.  The assumption is that I am still a kanyaa as I am not wedded to a man. (I might be engaged, in a relationship, living in on weekends in secret, or lesbian - but that doesn't count, strictly speaking.)

I immediately thought of all my single girl friends aged 30 and above who might still be waking up to poori and halwa on Ashtami morning, twice a year. A sweet gesture from the neighbourhood aunties that says they love you. Yet for these young women, embittered by their struggle to understand how to be single without having to feel apolegetic about it in this culture, or signing away your life to someone you don’t love – for them it could very well be a snub, an embarrassment, a prod in a tender spot – ‘You aren’t married YET! You’re an Old Maid, if ever there was one.’

Perhaps well-meaning neighbours can be a teeny bit sensitive about sending Ashtami Poori and Halwa to women above the age of 28 yrs. That would be a fair age to stop rubbing it in. Alternatively, they can honour the Divine in all women regardless of age or marital status by sending Poori and Halwa for all the women in the household, and thus celebrate the grace of the Goddess with great gusto. 

I'm sure the Goddess, benevolent as She is, wouldn't mind.

And that was what I really wanted to say.